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February 9th, 2010
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Getting Real With The Real World Part III (How This Blog Ended Up On The Show)

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Like everybody else in The District, I’ve become a faithful follower of The Real World DC. While most of us are really only watching it because the show was filmed in our city (and we are vain like that) I am also watching it for my weekly recaps I am writing over at Metblogs. While I was writing my recap for episode 5, I made note of Josh’s fight with his girlfriend over an Internet blog post she ran across of him making out with a girl.

From watching the clip I assumed the blog post was about his encounter with DC socialite Kelly Ann Collins, with whom he made out with earlier in the episode. However while writing the recap I tried to find the post that might of been the leak about Kelly Ann’s tryst with Josh. I couldn’t find it. I dismissed the lack of evidence and just figured Josh’s girlfriend heard it through the grapevine. (I later found out that the Kelly Ann Collins hook-up was leaked through a tweet sent out by RealWorldDCNewz.)

Later that night I got a comment on my blog that read, “Even if you weren’t on the show, at least the content of this blog made the TV show last night.”

I didn’t know what she was talking about until I re-read my first encounter with the cast.

17-josh-phone-girlfriendThat’s when I realized that the blog Ashley was read was mine, she was looking at the photo of my and the Brazilian girl that made out with Josh with the exact same caption that she read on-air.

In post-production it’s very common for the editors to piece together episodes using clips from various days, often mixing up the time line of how the events really occurred (the cast is asked not to get their hair cut while on the show for continuity.) It would make total sense for them to take a fight from another instance of Josh cheating and place it after the night Josh made out with Kelly Ann to make it appear that Josh got in trouble immediately after he committed the caper.

Regardless of how MTV edited the clip in- the phone call speaks for itself, looks like the something I had a hand in caused a little argument and for the couple to cool things off. In essence I kinda broke up Josh & Ashley. However having relationship coming into a reality show is asking for trouble.

Looks like I’m a reality TV home wrecker.

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February 8th, 2010
03:00 pm

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The Big Game XLIV Prop Bet Challenge Winner

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The Prize: Firefly Vodka

I want to thank everyone who participated in my first blog contest on The Definitive Dmbosstone, lots of people entered and I hope everybody had fun watching The Big Game last night. Congratulations to the Saints for taking down Peyton Manning and the Colts! It will surely be a long Mardi Gras this year.

And now to the answers and the winner!

1. What will be the result of the Super Bowl XLIV Coin Toss?

2. Team to win the opening coin toss.

The New Orleans Saints called heads and won the coin toss:

3. The first 1st down in the game will happen on a Pass or Run play?

Pass Play (Manning pass deep right to D.Clark to IND 45 for 18 yards)

4. Team to score first in the game.

5. The first score of the game will be?

6. The first scoring play of the game will be?

Indianapolis Colts Field Goal (Stover 38 yard field goal)

7. Team to score the first Touchdown in the game.

Indianapolis Colts (Manning pass deep right to P.Garcon for 19 yards, TOUCHDOWN)

8. Team to call the first timeout in the game.

Indianapolis Colts (Timeout #1 by IND at 01:55 left in 2Q)

9. Team to call the first coaches challenge in the game.

10. What will be the result of the first coaches challenge in the game?

New Orleans Saints,  Play Overturned (TWO-POINT CONVERSION ATTEMPT. Brees pass to L.Moore is incomplete. ATTEMPT FAILS. New Orleans challenged the incomplete pass ruling, and the play was REVERSED.)

11. Will there be a score in the last 3min 30 seconds of the game?

Yes (Manning pass short left intended for R.Wayne INTERCEPTED by T.Porter at NO 26. T.Porter for 74 yards, TOUCHDOWN.)

12. Which quarter will the most points be scored in?

3rd Quarter (17)

13. Will there be a lead change in the second half?

Yes (Brees pass short right to P.Thomas for 16 yards, TOUCHDOWN.)

14. Who Will Win 2010 Super Bowl XLIV MVP?

Drew Brees

15. What will be the result of Drew Brees first pass attempt?

Pass Complete (Brees pass short left to P.Thomas to NO 31 for 6 yards)

16. Total TD Passes by Peyton Manning Over/Under 2.5

Under (1)

17. Player to score the first TD in the game.

Pierre Garcon (Manning pass deep right to P.Garcon for 19 yards, TOUCHDOWN)

18. Total Passing Yards, which will be higher?

Peyton Manning Super Bowl XLIV (333)

19. Total Passing Yards, which will be higher?

Dan Marino Super Bowl XIX (318 Passing Yards, Drew Brees Super Bowl XLIV: 288)

20. How long will it take Carrie Underwood to sing the National Anthem?

Over 1 Minute and 42 Seconds

21. What will the TV Rating be?

*Over 42.9 Nielsen Rating (46.4)

22. Which Super Bowl commercial will have a higher rating on USA Today’s annual Ad Meter?

Other (Mars’ Snickers)

23. Which sideline reporter will be on TV first after the opening kick off.

Solomon Wilcots (First report at 7:10, Steve Tasker first report at 7:50)

24. What Color will the Gatorade be that is dumped on the Head Coach of the Winning Super Bowl Team?

Orange

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25. What side of the ball will the Players that perform the Gatorade Shower be from?

Defensive (DE Jeff Charleston & DE Bobby McCray)

26. Who will the Super Bowl MVP of the Game thank first?

Does Not Thank Anyone

27. How Many Times will CBS show Eli Manning on TV during the Game?

Under 2.5 (1)

28. How Many Times will CBS show Kim Kardashian on TV during the Game?

Under 2.5 (0)

29. How Many Times will CBS announcers fully mention Hurricane Katrina during the game?

Under 2.5

30. What color top will Kim Kardashian be wearing at the Super Bowl?

Black

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31. How many times will Pete Townshend do his legendary windmill move?

Over 5.5

32. Will a member of the Who smash a guitar on stage during the half time show?

No

33. Who Will Win Super Bowl XLIV

New Orleans Saints

TIE-BREAKER: What will be the combined score of the game?

48

And the winner of this year’s challenge is…

Craig Leger of 4 Sport Boston!

He got 21 out of 33 right and will be seeing a bottle of Firefly coming his way- congrats!

The winner of the consolation prize drawing is…

Brad of A Jersey Kid!

Complete results after the jump

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February 5th, 2010
09:30 am

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Why I Don’t Read Magazines Anymore

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Even though I love to get snail mail, last week I received two “last issue” warnings for a couple of magazines I subscribe to. For both I ignored their request to re-up my subscription, even though one of them was a trade magazine that I got for free.

I used to devour my magazines days after they came in the mail, but now with my life busier than ever periodicals take a back seat to blogs, websites, and podcasts. As I embrace new channels for absorbing information, I find myself suffering from information overload- and as a result I am cutting down on the blogs I read, the podcasts I listen to, and the magazines I read.

To me, magazines are the least convenient form of media. From the moment you receive it the information is already stale and it is a hassle to tote around. Unless I’m on a plane at take-off, it’s easier for me to whip out my Blackberry or iPod touch and catch up on my blogs. Magazines don’t travel as easily as my Blackberry, nor is it easier to multitask with, like a podcast. Printed media demands your absolute attention, even if you are working out it’s best to read a magazine when using a aerobic machine that requires little attention to operate.

My argument for magazines also goes hand in hand with newspapers, people find it easier to read the news online than to read a newspaper that was created the night before.

While people already argue about the future of newspapers, I wonder how the magazine industry is going to fare in comparison. Will it die out like newspapers or does it stand a chance to survive? Recently people had said that the iPad will help save printed media much like e-readers and how they are giving books entrance into the electronic playground.

The one thing magazines and papers still have an edge on is content. While newspapers have struggled with making revenue while giving their best stuff away for free, most magazines have still survived by refusing to post their latest works up as fast as papers. Thus in some cases you still need to pick-up the latest issue to read the latest articles.

So if magazines do have a little bit of an edge compared to newspapers- what’s the difference between the two in how they approached online media? Newspapers tried to charge for access but the glut of outlets that were giving their stuff away for free drove the entire industry to do the same. Magazines however managed to avoid that to an extent, while few online competitors existed to create a free content frenzy.

So maybe it was the way both established their online approaches that made the difference, but does that mean newspapers can’t make a comeback? The New York Times is about to see if they can change midstream- returning back to a fee based system.

So will it work for the Times? Is the New York Times brand with such loyal fans that they are willing to pay to read it?

I wouldn’t know. I don’t read the Times, I go on Google News instead.

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February 4th, 2010
01:05 am

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Oscar Watch: The 2010 Nominees

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50 films, 33 days. Over at GoGameFace I react to the Oscar nominations, share my thoughts on Sherlock Holmes,  and tell you which film was a pleasant surprise in the nominations.

Oscar Watch: Oscar Nominations Thoughts And Surprises

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February 2nd, 2010
09:00 am

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The Big Game XLIV Prop Bet Challenge

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logo_2010-Super-BowlLast year I ran a really badass Super Bowl The Big Game pool, where I took some of the craziest prop bets and put them onto a sheet- whoever got the most right wins! Well I think this year I want to take the fun online, for entertainment purposes only of course!

Below you’ll find a link where you can enter your picks for various proposition bets for The Big Game! Just pick ‘em and whoever gets the most right will win a 750ml bottle of  Firefly! There will also be an additional drawing for those that help spread the word about the challenge. The lucky winner of that drawing will receive a 375 ml bottle of Firefly.

A few rules:

  1. One entry per person.
  2. The person who correctly guesses the most prop bets will be declared the winner. Only prop bets that have action will count (i.e. if Kim Kardashian isn’t on camera at all then the Kardashian appearance bet is void.)
  3. In the event of a tie after the tie-breaker, I will draw names out of a hat amongst those still tied.
  4. There will be an additional drawing for those that help spread the word about my contest- each person who sends a tweet with this post and my twitter handle; or links back to this post on their blog will receive an entry. There is no limit to entries you can earn through this method.
  5. If the winner is under 21 an alternate prize will be rewarded so I don’t go to jail.
  6. The deadline for entries is Sunday February 7th at Noon.

All bets are closed now! Enjoy the game!

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February 1st, 2010
09:30 am

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A Win And Fail At Customer Relationships At Hair Cuttery

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Do you GTL?

For my anti-Jersey Shore fans that stands for: Gym, Tanning, and Laundry. The three steps you need to take in order to look fresh at all times. Well I try to hit the gym but skin isn’t kissed by the fake UV rays of tanning beds, good thing I’m Asian and my skin is naturally tanner than yours. When it comes to my laundry well- I’m staring right now at a pile of clothes I should take care of.

The idea of GTL also includes regular hair cuts, we know that Guidos love their new hair cuts. A ritual I actually partake in.

Now I don’t get a new haircut every week but I make it a habit to get one at the top of each month so my hair doesn’t grow into a weird cowlicky fro.

You really don’t want to see it- I’m doing society a favor.

This past weekend I stop by the Hair Cuttery, the place where I’ve been getting my monthly cut ever since I moved into Arlington.

As I am getting my hair washed I a lady across the room turned to me and says, “Oh my god this place has the best product!”

I chuckled at her testimonial and went along getting my hair did.

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A few minutes later though I spied her walking to the register literally with her arms full of bottles of shampoo and “product.” She really must love Hair Cuttery and what they sell. As she walked by me she stopped and started to put bottles of product in front of me and the guy sitting next to me.

She began to sell the guy on some magical bottle of shampoo that she loves and the guy listened kindly and replied, “you must have stock in this,” to which she answered, “oh no I don’t work here or anything- I just love this place and the products!”

Wadia, the woman cutting my hair, explained that she was a regular and they absolutely adore her. To which she went on to explain how much they love the regulars. The woman looked energized as she conversed with the staff at the register and eventually made her exit.

After my haircut was done I paid for my cut and after I gave her a tip she replied, “thank you- and it was great meeting you,” as if it was the first time we’ve met.

Problem is she’s definitely cut my hair once or twice before, and for a regular who comes in the same time every month I didn’t make the same lasting impression as the woman who evangelizes for their store. While she is a store regular they can’t forget- I am a store regular that flies below the radar.

I wonder why- is it because I don’t have a regular stylist? Maybe it’s because I walk in and just get the business done- I get a cut, I don’t chatter that much, and I never buy any product.

What do you think makes certain loyal customers stand out above others?

January 29th, 2010
09:00 am

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4 Sport Boston: Around The Diamond: Pitchers & Catchers

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Last week I started the position-by-position preview of the Red Sox with a write-up on Pitchers and Catchers. Be sure to read that and the other articles over at 4SB.

4 Sport Boston: Around The Diamond: Pitchers & Catchers

January 28th, 2010
09:00 am

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Oscar Watch: The Race Is On For Best Picture

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Over at GoGameFace I write about The Hurt Locker’s big PGA win plus my thoughts on Avatar, Up In The Air, and more…

GoGameFace: Oscar Watch: The Race Is On For Best Picture

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January 26th, 2010
05:06 pm

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Grace Under Fire

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Tech week. We’re all gonna die.

The words of one of my actresses in regards to this week: Hell Week.

Call it what you want, Tech Week, Production Week, Hell Week. I like Hell Week- because it is truly hell. Back in October I experienced it for the first time as a stage manager and it didn’t go so well. I learned lots of lessons and came into this week ready to take on the work everything will go just as planned.

Ya that didn’t happen.

The work has been long, hard, stressful, and slow.

While I would want to freak out about my progress I will not. As much as I want to get mad at myself about the way the week is progressing and blame myself I should not.

I planned and prepared as much as I could to try and have the week go smoothly. But sometimes all the preparation in the world can’t help from certain things to go wrong or certain things to slow you down. It becomes frustrating to try and keep everything under control but to see things get out of hand on stage, off stage, everywhere.

I am very proud of myself in how calm I’ve been taking all of this- during Rocky I was the opposite of calm. This week I’m learning a new lesson: as much as I want to be in control of Hell Week, I am not.

During hell week everything comes together from actors to props to lights. There’s too many cooks running around trying to finish their part of the meal, and while I’ve done a good job managing everyone’s time and keeping things somewhat organized- I can’t make certain things go faster or prevent random acts of god from occurring.

That’s why it’s Hell Week- you think you can keep it under control but you realize you are in hell. However there is one thing I can control that is essential to the show.

Not freak out.

If the stage manager is calm and collected, then cast and crew will also be calm, confident that everything will come together. Right now the cast and crew is looking to me for inspirational leadership. I am lucky to be surrounded by people that know what they are doing, all they need to do now is to come together and if they see me working hard, confident in the end result I know they will pull it together and by theatre magic, have everything ready by Friday.

So if you don’t hear from me til well into next week- that’s because I’m in hell, and somehow enjoying it.

P.S. I hope you can come out and support the blood, sweat, and tears I’ve spent putting up Amadeus- it opens up Friday (after hell week.)

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January 21st, 2010
12:00 pm

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Oscar Watch: How Watching Films Can Bridge The Gap Between Fantasy Sports

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This year I am honored to be taking Oscar Watch to GoGameFace.com where I will be writing regular reviews and posts during the awards season. This post was originally posted over at GoGameFace, tune in there as I once again embark on my annual journey to watch all the Oscar nominated films.

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James Cameron might be holding a lot of awards come Spring.

I’m not watching the NFL playoffs this year.

For me football season ended in Week 16 where I competed in four fantasy football championships; after that I kept watching football up until New England rolled over against the Ravens (I live in DC but I’m a Bostonian by birth.) Instead of trying to extend my fantasy football season with playoff leagues I move on to a different season: awards season.

The film awards season traditionally starts with the Golden Globes in January and lasts until late February/early March with the Academy Awards. In between various guilds and critic societies hold awards ceremonies of their own, each recognizing the best in film for the past year. It’s a perfect fit in between fantasy football and fantasy baseball. Last year when I finished fantasy football I decided to take my fantasy sports skills to a different game: Oscar Prognostication. My co-workers and I participate in an annual Oscar pool and I decided to watch as many Oscar films as I could to best prepare me to win it all.

Preparing to pick the Oscars is much like running a fantasy football team: reading trade publications and blogs looking for insider information, analyzing at past history and future trends, and if you are a hardcore player: watching the “players” in action in order to scout out the talent. In the end you pick who you think is the best and hope that it all pans out. I’m amazed they haven’t created a fantasy Oscar game yet, maybe I should do that before Yahoo! beats me to it.

Once again I start another journey to dominate in the Oscar pool. I’m reading all the blogs and watching all the films so I can be best prepared to win my league er pool. Now it’s mid-January and all of the critics societies across the nation have picked their choices for best films and actors. I watch these races as a sort of Oscar-film combine, watching to see who are the early leaders. The Golden Globes were presented this past weekend, the first of many awards to come. The Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences won’t present the Oscar nominees until February 2nd, so The Golden Globes sets the tone of what to expect this season:

  • The March Of The Blue People Continues: Avatar has been considered the best picture favorite even before it was released. Best director and best picture (Drama) wins for James Cameron’s epic keeps the momentum going full steam ahead. Will it last all the way to Oscar Sunday?
  • Up Should Get Best Picture Nomination: This year the slate for best picture expands from 5 to 10, which means more outstanding features like Pixar’s Up should get into the slate. Animated features rarely get nominated for best picture and quite a few were disappointed that Wall-E didn’t get a nod last year.
  • Don’t Forget About The Basterds: Inglourious Basterds was released back in August, while most award contenders are released late in the year in order to stay fresh in the Academy’s minds. Robert Downey Jr.’s win for best lead actor (comedy of musical) is a prime example of this (the film was released this past Christmas.) I almost forgot about Christoph Waltz’s dazzling performance til he won best supporting actor.
  • Jeff Bridges Takes Early Lead For Best Actor: The slate for best actor is packed with amazing performances. The critics societies have recognized the likes of George Clooney (Up In The Air), Jeremy Renner (The Hurt Locker), and Colin Firth (A Single Man.) However Jeff Bridges performance in Crazy Heart won over the HFPA and earned him a Golden Globe for best lead actor (drama.) In a tight race with many deserving candidates Bridges’ certainly gets a boost with this win.

So it should be another exciting awards season this year and like a good NFL playoff game, I won’t be missing a single moment- or in this case a single film.

January 20th, 2010
12:49 pm

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The Internet As A Support Group

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I don’t know who Brandy is.

She doesn’t know who I am.

But that’s ok.

She’s a blogger and a teacher up in Canada who recently received some bad news: her boyfriend was diagnosed with an incurable form of cancer. It is the kind of news that breaks your heart, I have had loved ones in my life die from cancer and it is a very tough ordeal to go through.

Some people try and find solace through support groups, lectures, or just living out every day as it’s your last. However Brandy took a somewhat different approach.

She reached out to The Internet.

She e-mailed a dozen of her favorite bloggers with a plea. The plea networked it’s way into my Google Reader, plastered all over the front page. I will admit that it was an odd plea, not for money, not for sympathy, but a plea for support and a prayer. When most people encounter a situation like this they often turn to God or religion, instead this woman turned to the her friends and the group she interacts with the most: the online community.

And the online community answered her call. A fund raiser was started and Queen of the DC blog scene LiLu came up with an idea to show Brandy that her Internet community had her back:

Bloggers from around the country pitched in, and I was more than happy to lend my services for the DC portion. I’m in the crowd in front of the White House at the end of the video.

Last week I wrote a story about strangers coming together to help somebody and when I was asked to help somebody I don’t know and may never know I didn’t hesitate to act.

Because somebody out there needed help, needed support- and that was reason enough for me.

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Update (1/21/10): Click the logo above to make a donation to the Multiple Myeloma Research Foundation in Brandy’s name, bloggers around The Internet have already raised over $2,100. Another fine example of the other across great distances coming together in one united effort.

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January 19th, 2010
12:00 pm

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The Joys Of Social Overbooking

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A long holiday weekend means lots of time for rest, relaxation and some productivity right?

Not for me.

Friday I attended a Rachel’s birthday happy hour over at Laughing Man Tavern. I don’t know why they call it happy hour, one rarely spends just an hour getting happy. A couple of hours later I escaped downtown only to find myself at Hard Times Cafe. I then found myself at Jay’s Saloon. I ended up on a couch telling long tales to Maricha. Thank goodness my roommates don’t judge me… too much.

Saturday was supposed to be quieter: a night catching up and watching films with Adam. However options started to sprout from the ground as if the long weekend was a magic bean for social gatherings. My roommate invited me to the Timbaland concert and drinks on U-Street; Carolyn invited me to a house party at her house; Adam wanted to ditch the movie idea and meet up with some girls in Adams Morgan; Maxie was planning on going out to U-Street as well.

What do you do when faced with so many options? I already have enough trouble staying in on any given night, how does one manage so many invites? My first priority was with Adam, with whom I made plans with before all others. However texts started pouring in, each party attempting to guilt me into choosing their side. So I ventured out with an elaborate plan to try and make everyone happy.

I left my house around 11 to visit Carolyn’s party. Unfortunately she doesn’t live close to the Metro which means it would be a dry cameo. I visited for about an hour as Adam streamed texts on my phone describing the great time I was missing. Around midnight I dropped off my car and hailed a Taxi to take me to Brass Monkey to meet up with Adam. 15 minutes after sitting down with a drink the girls with him, “got tired” and wanted to leave.  One of the girls clearly wanted to leave with Adam by her side. I graciously said farewell as and wished Adam nothing but the best. I decided to walk over to U-Street to say hi to Maxie and end the night at Ben’s with Maricha. I didn’t make it all the way to Ben’s but somehow ended up walking up Rhode Island Ave at 4 AM.

My ambitious social itinerary wasn’t fully completed but I got awfully close. I should really know better after the time I spent all my money on four cabs.

I don’t write this to as a vain show of popularity, I am truly thankful to have all my friends here in Washington, DC- which why I want to spend time with all of them. Plus we all have those moments where we have to balance our social schedules, and we all have those weekends where there’s simply too much going on. How does one handle a situation like that? Do you pre-plan and share your time? Or do you simply prioritize and apologize to the others? I know that as a busy young professional in the city that I’m not the only one who finds themselves with many choices:  how do you handle it?

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January 18th, 2010
10:54 pm

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Metblogs Round-Up: 1-18-10

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Like many of my DC friends I’m not missing an episode of The Real World DC, and I hope you catch my weekly recaps every Thursday. Here are my breakdowns of episode 2 & episode 3. Here is what else I’ve been writing about over at Metblogs:

  • I started the new year catching some shows, here’s what I thought about Studio Theatre’s Solid Gold Cadillac and Keegan Theatre’s Rent.
  • If you are a DC local then you probably have a love/hate relationship with The Metro. Following a tough year, Metro General Manager John Catoe resigns from his position as Chief Metro Administrator.
  • Did you hear that you can get a year’s worth of frostys if you buy a key chain at Goodwill? Sounds like a deal to me!

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January 15th, 2010
09:00 am

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I Don’t Write About Cupcakes (The Importance Of Knowing Your Niche)

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My co-worker Mallory enjoys sneaking up on me in my office. Since my desk is in a corner of the office not in view of the door it’s easy for co-workers to jump out of no-where and scare the bejesus out of me.

Recently she snuck up on me and asked about my blog. She’s known about it for sometime yet doesn’t read it. In the conversation she happily volunteered reasons why:

Blog Topics That She Reads:

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Mallory simply told me that she’s not interested in anything I write about. She did tell me that if I started writing about cupcakes she’d want to read that. Does this make her a bad friend? I don’t think so. While my friends support me in my theatrical endeavors and if I ever needed some extra hands to move- reading my blog is a commitment. I understand that even though blogging is a big part of my life, my friends won’t be a part of my readership. They are my friends, but they are also people interested in a whole range of things- some of which isn’t what I write about.

So who does read my blog? Mostly people who are interesting in blogging, social media, and perhaps my annual Oscar Watch. As much as I’d love it for my friends to read what I write- I have to learn that by developing a personal brand, I am focusing my audience to fit the niche we want to target.

I don’t read cooking blogs because I’m not really that interested in food. Does that mean my friends should read me even if they aren’t particularity interested in what I write about? What do you think? Should they be more supportive? Should I realize I will always have friends and my blog audience as separate groups?

I’ll tell you one thing- I am not going to write about cupcakes.

January 14th, 2010
12:17 pm

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4 Sport Boston: The State of Patriot Nation Podcast

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This week we talk nothing but the Pats now that their season is over. We debate over the big “dynasty” question and start looking ahead to the off-season and NFL draft.

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January 13th, 2010
09:00 am

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Watching A Suicide On Twitter

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Please keep @Beccas43 in your prayers, currently in the ER for potential drug overdose.

That was a tweet I saw last Thursday night from social media enthusiast/fellow Asian Forrest W. Kobayashi. When I asked him if he knew Beccas43 he told me it was a story he saw through his Twitter network. When I investigated further I saw that one of Beccas43’s last tweets read, “I just took a large quantity of xanax. This could be interesting.”

Reading through some of  her previous tweets, my initial hunch turned into a disturbing reality: this wasn’t an overdose but a suicide attempt.

Amongst all the intimate details of our lives that we share in today’s social media world, I found it very disturbing to read the possible last words of this unknown woman. It is one of the most revealing moments I’ve witnessed online. I could see her cry for help, the same cry we see when anybody decides to take their own life be it in a private act or in a more public fashion.

Living in DC I hear stories of those who deliberately take their own lives by stepping in front of a moving Metro train. Now with The Internet, some are using it when committing suicide- akin to the public act of jumping off a bridge or tall building.

But what is more amazing is how others banded together to try and help this person. Others Twitter users, worked to find out who this unknown user was. Some doubted if this was a real attempt, but knew it was better to be embarrassed than left wondering what if. I read tweets that sprung up quickly after Beccas43’s last tweet- asking for help. Using the vast information available online, someone managed to find out who Beccas43 was. Another managed to call 911 and get the police and an Ambulance over to her place. News of Beccas43 traveled far enough that it attracted the attention of Alyssa Milano.

Authorities managed to get Beccas43 to a hospital just in time, saved by online strangers.

This story has many different angles: The Internet’s ability to connect others or disseminate and discover information; the level of isolation and loneliness in today’s online world; the use of The Internet as a public stage. None of these however is the real reason I wanted to write this post.

As interesting as this story is, in the end it comes down to the inherent good people have for each other. Despite how social media has created crowds desperate to attract attention to themselves, there are moments where we instead see a basic, decent, human value to help one another.

January 12th, 2010
12:50 pm

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Cabin Fever (aka Why I Need To Be In A Bad Romance)

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106978_music-video-lady-gaga-bad-romance“I just get tired of sitting around and watching TV.”

Last night at Amadeus rehearsal I was talking with Kristin, my props designer, about her work on the show as an escape from her couch.

I could easily relate to her feelings, it’s really hard to find me home alone on a Saturday night. Even when I convince myself I need to stay in, I find myself with an urge to be social on the weekend.

Maybe it’s weekdays spent in an office by day and on a stage by night. Maybe it’s the fact I easily get lonely or perhaps the fact I get restless and ADD over any attempts to spend a night in doing actual productive things. I originally wanted to write blog posts for the week Saturday night- but instead I found myself calling up Carolyn for a night out in Adams Morgan. Despite the loss of personal productivity, I found the night a success. I visited my pal JP who was working at a bar and ran into Maxie who was out celebrating Lexa’s birthday. I woke up the next day with clothes strewn about the floor and a pain in my knee.

I also woke-up with two thoughts:

1. I don’t know if I can really do anything productive on a Saturday night- I think I have to resign myself to the fact Saturdays are for going out and being with friends.

2. Maxie is a really good wingman.

One of the things I miss about college is how often you are surrounded by your friends. In real life it is a bit harder to do. Life is hard to balance between work, theatre, blogging, friends and other things you need to do. Sometimes I feel like I need to just go through an anti-social stage and shut myself in, just so I can concentrate on getting things done. However there are some nights I just want to go out and be with my friends.

I am prone to cabin fever. It explains why I will go out in the middle of a blizzard. It explains why I enjoy blogging in the middle of a coffee shop. It explains why I am terribly lonely sometimes.

Maybe this is just another part of my Quarter Life Crisis.

Maybe I just need to get into a Bad Romance.

Do you get cabin fever? Also do you think Lady Gaga is hot? I don’t know how but that song is now stuck in my head and I’m still on the fence if I think she’s hot or not. It’s hard to tell when she often looks like this:

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And when I wanted to see her without make-up I found this:

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but Perez Hilton has some old photos of Lady Gaga before she became famous:

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Maybe I’ll just keep continuing on finding that bad romance.

January 9th, 2010
08:30 am

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My Brother Can Rap

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My brother Danny: Rapper. Dork.

Remember that I Am T-Pain iPhone App I wrote about earlier? Well my sister Kim got an iPhone for Christmas and I convinced her to get the application. While I didn’t get as much time with it as I hoped- my little brother sounds pretty cool with it.

I want an iPhone so bad now.

Also my little brother is a dork.

January 7th, 2010
12:38 pm

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4 Sport Boston: Ravens Pats Preview and Podcast

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Looking ahead to this week’s Ravens/Patriots game I did a little homework on the Ravens and wrote an article for 4 Sport Boston. Check it out and let me know if you agree with what I think about the Ravens.

I also ranted a lot on the podcast- check that out as well.

4 Sport Boston: Wild Card Game Scouting Report: Baltimore Ravens

4 Sport Boston: The 4SB Podcast Has Returned!

January 6th, 2010
08:30 am

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2009 In Review

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2009 will be the year of the recession. My personal recession.

Sure the economic recession started in late 2007 but it didn’t really hit me til the beginning of 2009; when my office laid off two employees and all of a sudden the mood around work started to change.

I felt somewhat secure with my own job but there wasn’t a lot of security in the entire office. Moods got depressing quick and everybody could see it, including me. After a whole year of constant worrying, I am still employed but the office is a shadow of what it used to be. Around 15 people left to for school, other jobs, or just escape the situation. In an office that was originally small and close knit, it was heartbreaking for me to see each person leave.

My job was a cloud that just hung over my head for the entire year, a presence that I couldn’t shake.

Much like actions we have taken to fix our economy, I too have took some actions to help me escape what was going on at work. While work was a downer, my work in theatre and in blogging helped me keep my mind off of it. Actually 2009 was a year where I accomplished some great things in theatre and blogging.

Unfortunately where theatre and blogging took up new amounts of my time, I found myself not ready to take a big step I wanted to take in 2009: Grad School. Education was another area of my life that didn’t pan out the way I wanted it to in 2009.

I met lots of new friends this year but I saw lots of close friends leave in 2009. Their departures from the area really left me without the strong social base which has helped me during my time here.

So 2009 had it’s good shares of both ups and downs, but I can’t help to think of 2009 as a slowdown year compared to 2008.

School

2009 was supposed to be the year I would go back to Grad School, but as the time got closer I realized I wasn’t ready to do it. I realized with my new pursuits in theatre, I didn’t put myself in a great position to take on school and be able to balance it all.

So I’m already looking to 2010 with an eye towards the fall. I’m going to make sure that I don’t take on too much so I can spend the last half of the year back in class.

Work

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The day we drank an entire gallon of water at work.

I feel like I’ve spent a lot of 2009 worrying about work. I’ve seen my department go from five people down to just me. I have been busy taking on the responsibilities of the entire department and I have been busy. However the idea that things could go from bad to worse at anytime never made me feel comfortable. However I sucked it up and approached everything with the utmost professionalism.

I spent 2009 worrying and now I’m through with worrying. I’m ready to use 2010 as an opportunity to get back on the horse and resolve these issues once and for all.

Friends

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Baltimore 2009

A lot of my friends moved away this year. Sarah, Falkor, LJ, and Wendi moved away for Grad School and I really missed having them around.

But I still had great times with the friends that are still around. There wasn’t any Hershey Park this year but Katie and Doug organized another memorable night in Baltimore.

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A new roommate line-up.

I also got to share lots of great times with Rebecca, Adam, Sarah and Ryan; who all continue to be friends I can truly depend on. Mike is a regular at my house parties and his birthday downtown will be one I won’t forget anytime soon.

Besides my existing friends down here I made lots of new friends. After I worked up the courage to attend a certain BBQ, I found myself with a great group of local bloggers. The year with them can be defined through happy hours, trips  to the strip club, and a wedding. Thanks to all my new friends for enriching my social scene down here.

I had some great times with my roommates Sarah and Caroline, including some backyard adventures, however 2009 was the year we saw Sarah move on from Highland Street. As we said goodbye we searched for another roommate and welcomed Maricha into our home. She’s been everything I could of hoped for in a roommate and I she’s been a great addition to the house.

As always my friends back home have been supportive but I didn’t get to see them as much as I’d like. With two additional trips home in 2010 I look forward to reconnecting with them again.

Family

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Christmas 2009

In February I had the distinct honor of representing my family to a completely unrelated Pho family. Crazy. For one moment this year I wasn’t the only Pho around. However I was the only Pho with PHO SHO plates. They were impressed.

I still can’t believe Danny is graduating from high school and will hopefully be in college this fall.

In 2009 we celebrated Diana’s engagement. She also visited me this past fall and she’s also looking into Grad School- albeit for a much more advanced degree. Kim is going to go on Internship soon and that means she’ll be graduating soon as well. All my siblings are graduating, just another sign I’m getting old.

In a final note of family news, my Mom got on Facebook. Luckily I don’t think she’s been snooping around my profile too much.

Love

2009 started with Carrie, whom I dated til around March. She was nice and was the first person I actually dated regularly.

Then there was Nicole. A night with her in Boston led to a weekend down here in DC. We’ve known each other for some time but our encounters were very much like that- limited engagements over a long period of time. This year I spent a lot of time thinking about her but in the end she was only a pipe dream.

Throw in a couple of Melissa cameos and some random hook-ups and that was my year in love. Nothing terribly exciting but all my experiences this year has helped me think about how I’ve approached relationships and dating and I think I’m close to an epiphany- but perhaps that’s the subject for a later post.

Travel & Special Events

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At Obama's Inauguration

The year started off with an event that pretty much took over Washington DC: The Inauguration of Barack Obama. It was so exciting to be living here through all the chaos and to witness the historic event in person.

2009 brought the “3rd season” of The OBX we where had an 80’s Prom for the ages.

I only got to see DMB once this year- I ended up flaking on a trip to Scranton. However I did get to make a couple road trips including a trip to Pittsburgh to see Melanie and Jim and a road trip to Sonic; however I didn’t get to do all the travel I wanted to.

I’d like to say I am going to make it all up in 2010 but travel won’t be a priority this year.

Theatre

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Rocky Horror Show

After three years away from the stage 2009 was the year I jumped head first into the DC Theatre Scene. After working on Cat On A Hot Tin Roof I worked on a play that never went up, and is now the show that shall not be named. I then went to Kensington Arts Theatre where I put on heels for a production of Rocky Horror.

After working on Cat, I hoped to spend the year working at different places and meeting all sorts of new people. I have certainly done that and I have goals to make 2010 a year where I continue to get involved in more theatres.

Blog

I said 2008 was the year of the blog and in 2009 I really thought a lot about my direction in blogging. Throughout the year my blog continued to grow and I now have more of a direction of what I want to write about and where I want to write it. Columns like my annual Oscar Watch, has helped made my blog more than a trite journal of my life. In 2010 I hope to further define what The Definitive Dmbosstone is and further reshape my personal brand.

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With the cast of Real World DC

My old roommate Craig started a new Boston sports blog called 4 Sport Boston and  I helped him create a regular podcast which has helped me work on becoming a better broadcaster and communicator.

Over at DC Metblogs my work there has led to meeting really interesting people. I got to meet Postsecret’s Frank Warren, director Richard Linklater, and LeBron James. My work at Metblogs led to my first speaking gig and a night partying with the cast from The Real World DC.

For 2010 I hope to focus my blog even further and continue to find a focus for Metblogs that fits into the DC Blog scene. I hope to get better at podcasting over at 4 Sport Boston and learn more about the art of podcast.

In Conclusion

Yesterday I wrote about how New Years for some is a turning point we all need. I wrote that less to address the cynics and more to address myself. I needed 2009 to end so I get my own blank slate, my own fresh start.

And that’s how I originally wanted to end this post when I wrote it this past weekend. However I just read a really insightful post on Millennials in 2009. Carol Phillips hit exactly how I was feeling on the head:

Meanwhile, a generation famous for being optimistic, is becoming increasingly discouraged by their ‘life on hold’ status. The immediate response was to make the best of things, opting for low paying jobs with non-profits, unpaid internships or going overseas to teach English as a second language. Others opted to spend their time as unpaid journalists, blogging away and honing social media skills in the hope of catching the eye of someone willing to pay them for their time. Others gave up in favor of using the time to travel, hike the Appalachian trail or pursue another degree.

Carolyn moved away to teach English in Korea, she’s back now but already looking at other places to travel. Countless friends made the jump into Grad School (with me soon in tow.) While I became more frustrated with my life on hold, I found other ways to break-out: theatre and blogging.

So I guess my personal recession isn’t something I’m experiencing- but by so many others in my generation. I take solace in knowing that maybe I’m  not really alone in this after all.

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